One day a teacher asked her students to list the names of the
 other students in the room on two sheets of paper, leaving a
 space between each name.
 Then she told them to think of the nicest thing they could say about
 each of their classmates and write it down.
 It took the remainder of the class period to finish their assignment,
 and as the students left the room, each one handed in the papers.
 That Saturday, the teacher wrote down the name of each
 student on a separate sheet of paper, and listed what everyone
 else had said about that individual.
On Monday she gave each student his or her list. Before long, the
 entire class was smiling. 'Really?' she heard whispered. 'I
 never knew that I meant anything to anyone!' and, 'I didn't
 know others liked me so much,' were most of the comments.
 No one ever mentioned those papers in class again. She
 never knew if they discussed them after class or with their
 parents, but it didn't matter. The exercise had accomplished
 its purpose. The students were happy with themselves and one
 another. That group of students moved on.
Several years later, one of the students was killed in Vietnam and
 his teacher attended the funeral of that special student. 
She had never seen a serviceman in a military coffin before. He looked so handsome,
 so mature.
The church was packed with his friends. One
 by one those who loved him took a last walk by the coffin. The
 teacher was the last one to bless the coffin.
As she stood there, one of the soldiers who acted as pallbearer
 came up to her. 'Were you Mark's math teacher?' he asked. She
 nodded: 'yes.' Then he said: 'Mark talked about you a
 lot.'
After the funeral, most of Mark's former classmates went together
 to a luncheon. Mark's mother and father were there, obviously
 waiting to speak with his teacher.
'We want to show you something,' his father said, taking a wallet
 out of his pocket 'They found this on Mark when he was
 killed. We thought you might recognize it.'
Opening the billfold, he carefully removed two worn pieces of
 notebook paper that had obviously been taped, folded and
 refolded many times.  The teacher knew without looking that
 the papers were the ones on which she had listed all the good
 things each of Mark's classmates had said about him.
 'Thank you so much for doing that,' Mark's mother said. 'As
 you can see, Mark treasured it.'
All of Mark's former classmates started to gather around. Charlie
 smiled rather sheepishly and said, 'I still have my list. It's
 in the top drawer of my desk at home.'
Chuck's wife said, 'Chuck asked me to put his in our wedding
 album.'
'I have mine too,' Marilyn said. 'It's in my
 diary'
Then Vicki, another classmate, reached into her
 pocketbook, took out her wallet and showed her worn and
 frazzled list to the group. 'I carry this with me at all
 times,' Vicki said and without batting an eyelash, she
 continued: 'I think we all saved our lists'
That's when
 the teacher finally sat down and cried. She cried for Mark and
 for all his friends who would never see him again.
The density of people in society is so thick that we forget that
 life will end one day. And we don't know when that one day
 will be.  So please, tell the people you love and care for,
 that they are special and important. Tell them, before it is
 too late.
 
 
 
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